Real Love Is Pushing Someone To Do Better But Not Forcing Them To Change…

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Good Evening Peeps…

08/04/2020 #41

True love is hard to find these days. Everyone wants to fix each other and no one is accepting their partners for who they truly are.

Real love is not always roses and butterflies. It can be tremendously hard. It isn’t accepting each other in the moment, but accepting each other through life no matter how hard things get. We cannot expect someone to change, if they are not who we want to be with now they will not be who we want to be with later. You cannot love someone and expect them to mold to fit your idea of who they should be. Love does not work that way.

In this life, we often get confused when it comes to real love and fake love. You see, we can all push our partner to be better without forcing him or her to do things that he or she doesn’t want to do. There is a line and it should not be crossed. All the best relationships are full of well-respected boundaries.

There is small story i came across which i am going to share , which touched my heart…

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, when an elderly gentleman, in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry and that he had an appointment at 9:00 am.I took his vital signs, and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.On exam it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redressed his wound. While taking care of him, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had a doctor’s appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for awhile and was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease.As we talked and I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, and hadn’t recognized him in five years. I was surprised, and asked him,“And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?”He smiled and patted my hand and said, “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”

So after reading this what would you call it ? A true love ? or pure love ?

Real Love is not selfish. It is accepting that no one is perfect and loving someone despite their quirks. Both partners should feel free to grow in the relationship and feel supported each and every step along the way. That’s what a partner is, it is someone who stands by your side through thick and thin. Someone who puts just as much into the relationship as you do.

We do not change for each other, we change for ourselves. A relationship in which your partner only loves some of you is not one you want to be in. There is a real sense of freedom and yet comfort when it comes to having found true love. We all have wounds, we have all felt rejection, we are all human. No one is perfect. There is no knight in shining armor.

If You Both Do The Following You Have Real Love:

  • You support one another.
  • You care about each other.
  • You don’t try to fix the other person.
  • You have similar goals and values in life.
  • You get along well.
  • You can communicate well with one another.
  • You don’t ignore each other.
  • You are accepting of each other’s flaws.
  • You do not feel like something is missing.

If you have someone in your life who you love with all of your heart that you would not change for the world you have found something very special. Real love is something many spend their whole lives searching for and never find it. Check out the video below and let that special someone know how much they mean to you. Now, for those who are still searching, stop. Let love find you, it comes out of the most unexpected places at the most unexpected times.

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