Learn to enjoy Being Alone.

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15/05/2019 #22

We live in a world where we’re always around people either at work, in the store, and on our phones through social media. In fact, our society tends to label anybody who wants to be or is alone, as a lonely person or even more terribly, a depressed person. We have forgotten how to enjoy our own company.

This is particularly surprising since some of the admired and highly celebrated icons in human history are well known to be “loners.” We have mastered a lot of skills from society, but perhaps we have neglected the most important skill of all. The ability to learn alone, to learn about your strengths and weaknesses, to reflect on the way forward in life, to just sit and appreciate nature, is invaluable.

Ironically, social media doesn’t feel like the right place to be open, honest, and, well, social. Instead of being used as a platform to connect with people, social media has become a way to project a filtered and edited reality – and I’m guilty of that too. It’s a place for posting pictures of coffees and memes to get likes, rather than actually connecting with people. (In fact, I’ve often experienced social media to be the opposite of social, with people using it to troll and cyber-bully.)

Of course, just because you are alone, doesn’t mean that you are lonely, and just because you are surrounded by people doesn’t mean that you can’t be lonely. The goal is to become fine with spending time on your own (or better still, enjoy it), so that you don’t have to surround yourself with people that aren’t genuine friends. And if the people around you leave you feeling empty and disconnected, then it’s time to reconsider who you’re spending time with. Because chances are that the reason you’re feeling lonely is that you don’t feel connected to the people around you, or feel that they don’t genuinely care about you.

We can be “alone” because we want to be, whereas we are “lone” when nobody wants us. We can be happy while having no one around us (all alone in our house) while contrarily we can be lonely even when surrounded by a lot of people. Many people are scared of being alone as it takes them down into deep depression. They feel that having people around them is the only cure even though deep down they are still immersed in sorrow and anguish.

For rejuvenation of one’s soul and mind, it is nice to be alone.  It is important to spend time with one’s own self and re-energize the soul. 

As our body needs food to do all the activities, our soul needs “me” time. We are our own best friend. There can’t be any other person as loyal and truthful as we can be to our own self. And when we don’t spent sufficient time with our own selves we start feeling lonely.

People who get angry very often are asked to sit quietly for a few minutes. This allows them to reassess their own thoughts and actions. Meditation or allowing a few minutes’ silence works via the same phenomenon. It helps us to reach harmony with oneself. Reciting sacred hymns, taking time off from work, switching off your cellphone and closing your laptop helps a lot in reviving positive energies.  Exercising is another way to connect with one’s own self and to feel free from all the stress and anxiety.

Change comes from within. You alone have to decide if you want that change.

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