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Today’s topic, Might bring a lot of questions. I am doing this for one of my reader i cannot bring out the name but her life is totally messed up. The reason being , She followed her heart and went against her parents and ended up doing love marriage. She basically stays in Europe and she cannot go back to India. Her parents wanted her to marry a guy they choose and she went on marrying somebody she met online. She says it is always better what our parents choose for us then what we end up choosing without thinking.
What do you guys feel? Marrying somebody you love lasts longer or getting married to a arranged marriage would last longer? I personally prefer arranged marriage but its always good to know the person you are going to get married to. Not all arranged marriage works as well.
Marriage is an important decision of our lives and every individual wants to have a perfect match. In love marriages, individuals choose partners on their own, while in case of arranged marriages, partners are being chosen by the family. However, we all know that a great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences, be it love marriage or an arranged one. Well that is what i believe.
If i talk about the cast i come from, Very many years ago when babies were born, The decisions were made only that time on who the he or she will get married to when they grow up. Thank god it is not their anymore!!!!!!!!!
In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it’s not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up.
So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other’s feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other.
Statistics have proven that the probability of a love marriage failing is higher than an arranged marriage. And not everyone will agree on that maybe the couples who have been through this will be able to agree.
Can arranged marriage turn into a love marriage? Of course. But love is a broader concept than the selection of a suitable partner. A mutual attraction or friendship can turn into love.
And, remember that the success rate of marriage doesn’t depend upon whether it was arranged or not but rather on how the two people understand each other and spend their life together.
‘Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.’
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